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When You and the Alcoholic Are Speaking Different Languages —

"You probably don't realize that you and the alcoholic are speaking two different languages....To the alcoholic, alcohol is not the problem, it's the solution. The problem is anybody or anything that gets in the way of his consumption of alcohol. You're talking about alcohol as the problem; he's talking about you as the problem. See the problem?"

Love First, p. 8

Doctor, Alcoholic, Addict

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation - some fact of my life-unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

AA Big Book, 3rd Ed. p. 449

Recommended Reading & Viewing

The journey out of addiction and into recovery is not easy. It takes work. One of the keys to finding hope and success is in equipping yourself for the road ahead. Below you will find a variety of print and media resources that can help you in your pursuit of healing.

On DVD

To learn about the basics of addiction:

Twelve-Step Resources:

Resources for family members:

Spiritual Resources: